A Sample List of Grievances

I know you feel that you have not been rude or disrespectful to me. Here is a list of the things that are rude and disrespectful.

It is rude and disrespectful to wave your hands dismissively and roll your eyes when I make a comment that you do not agree with.
It is rude and disrespectful to have your computer open while I am trying to have a serious conversation with you and everyone else in the apartment.
It is rude and disrespectful to have sex loud enough that it can be heard over loudly playing music while your roommates are home.
It is rude and disrespectful to not respond to someone when they are speaking to you. I don't care if your headphones are in or not. I didn't even do this when I was ignoring you. If you spoke to me I responded. You just didn't speak to me.
It is rude and disrespectful to think that the other person should always be the one to start the conversation. When have you ever said "Hi, how was your day?" to me?
It is rude and disrespectful to talk about someone in a low voice while they are in the other room.
It is rude and disrespectful to put labels on your food without first talking to the other people living with you. It makes me feel like you do not trust me to not eat your food even though I have done nothing to show you I can not be trusted to not eat your food. It is rude and disrespectful to hurt someone's feelings in that way.
It is rude and disrespectful to break an agreement, like the agreement we had that we would both try to talk to each other.
It is rude and disrespectful to not apologize when you have hurt someone's feelings and you know you have. You could have apologized for being rude and disrespectful to me when I told you that was why I was ignoring you.
It is rude and disrespectful to back talk to someone who is making a very simple request of you. How hard is it to approach me instead of Garret when you have an issue with me? The way you responded to that request, call it whatever you want, was rude and disrespectful.
It is rude and disrespectful to expect me to push my feelings under the rug and forget about them so that you can feel better.
It is rude and disrespectful to dismiss my feelings by giving excuses. I told you I was waiting for you. I expected you to apologize for making me wait for you whether you knew I was waiting for you or not that is the decent thing to do. It is rude to keep someone waiting for you.
It is rude and disrespectful to make faces at and roll your eyes at my friends when I am standing right there. I don't care that you don't like them, I do. By not at least hiding your disdain when you are around me your disrespecting me by showing contempt for the company I keep.
It is rude and disrespectful to not take care of my things when I am allowing you the use of them. How hard is it to wash and put them away after you use them? I don't want them left in the sink. It shows disrespect of me when you leave them in the sink.
It is rude and disrespectful to say that you are not a rude or disrespectful person when there must be some reason why I feel this way or I would not be saying it.

All of these things make me think that you think you are better than me in some way. Why else would you feel it is ok to treat me with so much disrespect? I am a loving, compassionate, kind, generous, happy, silly, friendly, respectful, intelligent and passionate person. I am wonderful. So why do you treat me like less than that?